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BIBLE
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For
the week beginning Sunday August 2, 2020
FAMILY MATTERS
(Ephesians 5:21-6:4)
In Ephesians 5:21-6:4, the Apostle Paul teaches on how to be
controlled by the HOLY SPIRIT at home as he turns his focus to the two most
important family life relationships, “husband and wife”, and “parents and
children”. Here he defines how we should all strive to live as children walking
in the light of CHRIST at home, as well as in church. In fact, what
we do Monday
through Saturday in our homes, and on our jobs away from the church, is more of
testament to how we love and worship GOD, than what we do in church on Sunday
morning.
After Paul establishes the overriding
principle of us all submitting to one another out of reverence for CHRIST JESUS
(v.21), he moves on to the specifics of the spiritual responsibility of each
family member toward each other, and, towards CHRIST. Wives, he says, are to
submit to their husbands as they do to the LORD (v.22). Husbands are the head
of the wife, as CHRIST is the head of the Christian Church, which is HIS body
(v.23a).
The husband should “show love” for his
wife, and be willing to give his life for her, just as CHRIST was willing to
give HIS life for the church that HE so loves (v.23b). Husbands ought to love
their wives just as they love their own bodies. In fact, husbands actually show
that they love themselves, when, they love their wives, who they are
spiritually at one with, in the LORD (v.28).
GOD calls for us to have a united, GODly
home front. The Christian family’s interactions with one another should reflect
CHRIST and HIS interactions with the Christian Church, or, “Body of CHRIST”.
GOD fully intends for us to enjoy a harmonious, SPIRIT-guided family
relationship in submission to HIM first, and then, to each other, starting in
our own homes (v.21).
In the New Testament Greek, the word used
for “submit” is “hupotasso” (hoop-ot-as-so) and it means “to be under obedience
to”. It is a word that carries a complex concept which needs to be defined by
the context in which it is used. Here in this passage, there is no question of
power, or position as it is in, say, Romans 13. In this particular passage,
Paul calls for all believers to develop an attitude of submission, and a
willingness to be responsive by yielding to each other, out of love for each
other.
It would be remiss of us to read hierarchy
into these verses, but rather, we should see this passage as a call for us to
begin to develop a sensitivity toward each other that will help to extricate us
from “pride”, and enable us to function at all times, in a more, loving and
caring manner.
Each partner in a marriage has a special
“privilege”. A husband’s privilege is to put his wife first, after GOD, just as
CHRIST did when HE was crucified for us on the cross by Roman method. The
wife’s privilege is to set the tone of submission by being responsive and
caring. And neither partner lords over the other, but rather, each partner
ministers to the other in their own GOD-given, special ways, for that is the
“responsibility” that comes with the privilege.
In Ephesians 6:1-4, Paul addresses the
relationship between parents and children. In the Greek, the normal word used
for “right” is “dexios” (dex-ee-os), and it means “being on the right side of”.
Here in this passage, however, Paul uses the Greek term “dikaios” (dik-ah-yos)
for “right”, which means “the proper course to follow”.
Children are to submit themselves under the
leadership and care of their parents until they move out and start a family of
their own, or become responsible adults capable of making their own decisions,
for it is the proper course to follow. However, GOD commands a child should
always “honor” their parents, no matter how old the child is. In fact, it is
the first commandment of the Decalogue (Ten Commandments) that carries a
promise from GOD, and that promise is one of a long life, filled with
blessings.
Paul ends this passage with an admonishment
to fathers to not anger their children with harsh worldly and “ungodly
treatment”, but rather, they are to bring them up with the “GODly discipline
and instruction” that can be found in the Word of GOD. Here in verse 4a Paul
uses the Greek term “parorgizo” (par-org-id-zo) in his original Greek writings,
for “provoke”, and it means “to exasperate” or “make things worse, by what one
does or says”.
In
the home, the father must present a picture of the LORD to his children,
through both his speech and behavior, to, and before them. How a child views
his or her father has a profound effect on how they view GOD later on in life.
By provoking our children to anger through unGODly treatment, we will
ultimately “make things worse” for them later on in life.
The command to “Honor your father and your
mother” is the first commandment that parents can use to introduce their
children to the ways of GOD. If children respect their parents, they will
respond positively to their nurturing. Through GODly nurturing, it becomes
easier for a child to see GOD in their parents, and come to know and show
reverence to GOD after they become adults.
When they come to know GOD, through a
personal, experiential relationship with their parents, it becomes much easier
for them to have and maintain that same kind of relationship with GOD later in
life. And thus, they can enjoy a long life on earth, because we have passed on
to them, a legacy of faith, were they will desire to continue walking in the
light of CHRIST, and know the importance of passing that legacy on to their own
children.
A
Sunday school lesson by,
Larry D. Alexander
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